AI, matching and your relationship review

Updated 4 October 2026 · Adelaide, South Australia · Adults 18+

Your answers help us describe patterns and suggest introductions. You can question and correct the result.

The interview and matching

Once you agree on the card "Before we ask about you", your answers are sent to AI services run by Groq and Cerebras in the United States to read them into a profile and write your private report. Contact details we find, such as email addresses and phone numbers, are taken out first, but names are not, and free text may still identify you. Your account name, email and photos are not attached. The optional questions about your upbringing and past relationship patterns are used only to write your own private report, with the help of those AI services. They are not used for matching, and no traits are derived from them. Matching compares profile information and chosen filters, and software decides it: see decisions made by computer programs, and how to ask a person to look at one. Raw interview answers and private intimate preferences are not displayed on match cards. See providers and overseas processing.

Your additional private review

The full relationship review uses fixed rules to summarise the answers you select or write. These additional answers are stored by us but are not sent to the text-AI services or other members, and do not change matching scores. Account export includes them; account deletion removes the active record. Edit or clear answers from Profile. Turning off the past-hurt option and saving removes those answers from this review; optional interview answers have a separate withdrawal control in Account.

Four-letter preferences are an informal reflection, not an official MBTI assessment. Attachment patterns and love preferences are tentative and can vary by relationship and situation. A scenario response does not prove how someone behaves. We do not diagnose trauma or mental health conditions.

Star signs and Human Design are optional traditions for reflection, not scientifically validated personality or compatibility measures. Human Design uses a chart type you supply; I Can Wait does not calculate it from birth details. An external chart link has its own privacy terms; we do not send your birth details to it.

Choice and correction

You may skip review questions, edit your answers and request help correcting the interview profile. Avoid naming third parties, disclosing their personal information or describing experiences you do not wish to store. These features are not medical, psychological or relationship counselling.